Be Super Helpful

Tonight I performed at a jazz club in Chelsea at about 11 p.m. At that time of night the subway service in New York gets sketchy. I asked Rueben if he would pick me up. He did pick me up, and he didn't mind at all, even though by the time I asked him to do so, I was taking him out of his way. He was super helpful and I appreciate it very much. He is the best husband ever.

Be Full of Surprises!

I was watching "Live With Regis and Kelly" yesterday morning. One of the guests was Barbara Eden, the actress most famous for playing Jeannie on "I Dream of Jeannie." Just as her segment ended, my husband walked into the room with a mischievous smile. I said "Barbara Eden just wrote a book. It is called 'Jeannie Out of the Bottle.'" He said, "I would like to get the Jeannie out of your bottle," and jumped on me. Needless to say I immediately turned off the t.v. Afterwards, I told him what a pleasant surprise it was. I love when he keeps me on my toes.

Have a One Night Stand--With Your Spouse!

The other night, I cheated on my husband--with my husband! He came home from work, and a few minutes later, we were naked in the living room, going at it. There were few words, just raw, animal passion, like he was a one night stand. Very little talking, just red hot sex. It was enormously exciting. I felt like I was having sex with a random stranger (something I used to do sometimes in my single days)! Talk about spicing things up! Va va va voom!

Don't Be THAT Person

The other day, I was online, while my husband was in bed watching a college basketball game, as part of the whole March Madness excitement that comes around once a year. I finished what I was doing online, and I went to join him. He turned the tv off. I asked, "What are you doing?" He explained that he figured I wouldn't want to watch with him. I said that while it was true I didn't want to watch, it was NOT true that because of that he couldn't watch either. I went on to say, "I am not THAT girl. 'I don't want to watch basketball. Let's watch "Love, Actually."'" He then turned the game back on and said I was the best wife ever.

Keep the Lines of Communication Open

I recently have become obsessed with the romantic comedy, "He's Just Not That Into You." It follows the ups and downs of modern relationships between a married couple, dating couples, and a living together couple. The married couple has several problems, including the fact that they never have sex any more. I was watching "The Today Show" this morning and according to statistics, many married couples do not have sex. This can easily be the result of a host of reasons, including both parties having hectic work schedules. If this happens, though, it is very important to communicate about it and not let it go on for a long period. Intimacy is an important aspect of marriage and when it is not a priority, it can be a big problem. One thing the couple in this boat can do is talk openly about it and brainstorm ways to quickly address it.

Share New Experiences

Rueben and I continue to make progress in our tango lessons and are almost ready to take things from the dance studio, to out on the town at tango clubs. Neither of us ever took tango lessons before, so we are learning and improving together. Another new experience we are about to share is being co-leaders of one of our church's new small group ministries. Our group is called "Loving God and Loving Each Other." I am looking forward to this journey together drawing us closer to God, other people, and each other.

Remember Special Days

My wonderful husband surprised and impressed me once again (he does that a lot). This time he said, "Happy Anniversary." Knowing we were married on September 19th, I just looked at him, feeling puzzled. Sensing my confusion, he said, "March 16th was our first date." Isn't he the greatest? I was so touched that he remembered! And embarrassed that I hadn't. Ha ha ha. Oh well. I will try to do better next year.

That was a great day indeed. Although the weather by then should have been mild, on that day there was a huge blizzard in New York. But no storm was going to keep us apart. I later found out that the fact that I didn't cancel our date due to weather really got to him and is one of the reasons he fell in love with me.