Friday, November 19, 2010
I noticed that my husband and I have not had much quality time together lately. Instead of just waiting for intimacy, I did something to create it. I e-mailed Rueben that I wanted to spend time with him. He called to say what time he would be home. Soon after he arrived, he made love to me in such a tender and loving way! So don't wait for romance. Do something about it. Keep those fires burning!
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Sunday, November 7, 2010
This afternoon after church and a bible discussion I facilitate, Rueben and I went to meet my friend Antonia for Sunday brunch. While at brunch more than once I found Rueben turning his head to watch football (it was a bar/restaurant with big screen televisions. I totally lost my cool. I snapped at him that he was being rude and told him if he wanted to watch football, he should leave our table and go sit at the bar. About a half hour later, I thought about it. Even though he was being rude, I didn't need to lose my temper like that, especially in front of someone else. I apologized and he accepted my apology.
Saturday, November 6, 2010
Our weeks are usually so hectic, that we hardly see each other except to say good morning and have a great day. But we do spend quality time together, especially on the weekends. For example, today, from morning to night, we were together and had a wonderful time. First, I prepared a delicious breakfast at about 6:30 a.m. Then we went to church together for a special event we were a part of. Then we went to see the powerful new film, "For Colored Girls." Then we went for a romantic dinner at our favorite restaurant, La Moutarde. It was wonderful spending so much time together and we cherished every moment.
Friday, November 5, 2010
Recently, I experienced something that greatly disappointed me and it was written all over my face. Rueben noticed and asked if everything was okay. I said everything was okay. Later, I realized lying to him was a mistake and I needed to risk the vulnerability of sharing with him how I felt and what happened. I apologized for not telling him sooner and he accepted my apology and offered his support.
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
I recently got an e-mail from a friend asking if Rueben and I were available to do something. I politely asked the friend to not just write to me on such a matter, but write to us both. I would not presume to answer for my spouse, nor would I like it if he answered for me. It is important for both parties to maintain their autonomy and independence.