The Secret

I recently mentioned to a stranger that my husband and I just celebrated three years of marriage. He asked what is our secret. I replied that we make each other laugh a lot and we always communicate openly. If there is something bothering either of us, we speak up immediately so that the issue can be quickly resolved. Nothing is off limits. Religion. Sex. Politics. Money. You name it.

Have a Busy Social Life Outside of Your Marriage

It is extremely important to spend quality time with your spouse. But it is also important that you you do not depend on your spouse to keep you entertained 24/7. That would be too much pressure on your spouse and also not healthy for you. Being busy with your friends now and then, keeps you balanced and also makes you more intriguing to your spouse. It is hard to take someone for granted who is not sitting around waiting to be invited out somewhere. Or even better, someone who is so busy that it is imperative to ask you out well in advance. It is true when dating and it remains true after marriage.

Don't Underestimate the Importance of Touch

My husband and I have always had very different schedules, but lately, things have become even more hectic than before, making our times together rare. But the other night, when we had some long-overdue time togerher, my husband did something that was so simple, yet so profound. He gently caressed my ankles for about 2 hours straight. It may not sound like much, but the fact that he was touching me in a way that was not sexual, but rather intimate and sensual really made me feel close to him. He touched me and everything changed! So do not underestimate the importance of touch in your relatiohship.