Share Your Victory

One of the great joys of being married is having someone to share with when something great happens. Today was no exception. Two days ago, I wrote a letter to the editor of the New York Daily News. Today it was published. Right away, I e mailed my husband about it. Right away, he wrote back enthusiastically congratulating me. In case you want to read what I wrote it is on page 38 ("Voice of the People").

Remember That "I Love You" Never Gets Old

I have come to greatly appreciate that my husband tells me and shows me he loves me every single day. He never tires of letting me know how he feels and I never tire of knowing it. Sometimes I see a relationship on television or in the movies where there is a couple in which one of the people is disappointed that the other person avoids the "L" word. In Ghost, when Demi Moore's character says "I love you," Patrick Swayze's character replies "Ditto." Or if the person does use the 'L" word it is in a noncommital way, like "I love spending time with you." I thank God that Rueben is not like that. I cherish every single day with him for many reasons, not the least of which that he always lets me know what is in his heart. And needless to say I do likewise.

Get and Stay Healthy Together

The USDA announced today that the food pyramid is out and the plate is in. Visit myplate.gov for more details. It reminds me of my relationship with my husband. Almost the entre time we have known each other, we have been striving to make wise choices for meals, beverages, and snacks. We both are members of a gym, and when our schedule permits, we work out together. When it doesn't permit, we exercise separately. Whether we eat at home or eat out, we encourage each other to make choices we can be proud off. We love each other and want each other to live as long as possible so we take care of ourselves and each other.

Stay Together When Apart

This evening, I went alone to our favorite restaurant, Moutarde, in Park Slope. But even though we were apart, I felt Rueben's presence. It wasn't as exciting a dining experience as Sarah Palin and Donald Trump, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. In my book, 35 Ways to Marry the Man of Your Dreams, one of the things I emphasize is the importance of having a full and busy life apart from the relationship. And I do. But it is also great to have a sense of being connected to your partner, even when you are alone.