Monday, February 21, 2011

Be Like "the Other Woman"

Time and time again husbands cheat on their wives. But cheating is usually not about sex, although sex goes on. No. It is usually about feeling misunderstood by a spouse and understood by the other woman. One response to this issue is to be like the other woman. Be the one who your husband feels understands him and accepts him and thinks he is hot and sexy and wonderful. Look your best. Be your best. And be a fantasy come true. That way, when an actual other woman is around, she won't be as tempting because everything he desires is found in you.

Sing His Praises

Rueben makes me so happy that I love to tell friends what an exceptionally fantastic husband he is. Today was no exception. I shared with my good friend, Hill, that Rueben knew I needed a new CD player, so he took care of it. Hill, a completely heterosexual man, exclaimed that Rueben is so wonderful that HE wanted to marry him himself. And this is not the first time he said this. I tell Rueben often what a pleasure it is to be loved by him, but I think it is also great to mention it to friends too.

Friday, February 18, 2011

In Sickness and in Health

In all the years I have known Rueben, he has never been as ill as he is today. He came home earlier than usual and told me he has been throwing up and had loose bowels. He went to bed and asked me to put something next to him to throw up into. He has thrown up about three or four times and is totally miserable. To be honest, watching him is making me queasy. But I promised the day we married to stand by him in sickness and in health, so here I sit, near him in his time of need. He said it happened in the past and Gatorade helped. So I ran out to the store to get him some Gatorade. I dread emptying the bucket next to him, but if the tables were turned, I know I would want him to empty my bucket. I am glad to take care of him in his time of need, even if it grosses me out!

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Do Your Part

My husband always has wonderful surprises for me on our anniversary, on my birthday, at Christmas, and on Valentine's Day. He really has mastered the art of romance. When I arrived at work on Valentine's Day, waiting for me on my desk were a dozen long stemmed red roses and a note from him. But I surprised him too. When he went to the kitchen he found a romantic card from me waiting for him on the table. We had plans to have a romantic dinner together at Moutarde, our favorite restaurant. I arrived first and ordered champagne, another surprise for him. He surprised me with a Nook Color, a device I had commented to him before that I think is far superior to the Amazon Kindle. He remembered my comment (I was not hinting, I swear!) and gave me this magnificent present. Each of us did our part to make the day special for the other. So do your part too. And so should your spouse. A great marriage is one where each person looks out for the interests of the other person.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Be Full of Surprises!

Yesterday morning, I was going over my financial records in preparation for a consultation with my accountant. Part of that preparation was asking my husband some questions. Well, one moment we were discussing taxes and the next moment I gave my husband a blow job. You should have seen the smile on his face. He was pleasantly surprised with that racy development. Then I went back to preparing for my meeting.