We Are One, Yet Two

A friend of my husband and I wanted us to do something for him. He wanted to know if we could do it. Rather than answer for the two of us, I directed our friend to ask my husband directly to obtain his response. I did this because it would be what I would want my husband to do under similar circumstances. We are one, in terms of our unity, but we are two, in terms of responding to questions. I would not presume to answer on my husband's behalf unless it was on an issue we previously discussed.

Give a Public Shout Out

It is great to whisper sweet nothings in your spouse's ear. But it is also wonderful to publicly state your devotion. This public statement is a sure way to show how proud you are to be together. It can be as old school as saying "I love you" over dinner with friends, or as high tech as saying it on your spouse's wall on Facebook. I have done both.

Don't Take Flirting Too Far

I do not think there is anything wrong with harmless flirting with someone besides your partner. But if it crosses the line into the danger zone, it should be put to death immediately. This is what happened to with me this afternoon and I confessed it as soon as I saw my husband this evening. He forgave me and I assured him it will not happen again.

Engage in Sensual Touch

One of the ways that Rueben and I stay connected to each other is by touching each other in sensual ways. Sometimes he strokes my back over and over for several minutes to help me to relax. Other times, I run my fingers through his hair or gently cradle his face. We also stroke each other's arms. All this affection deepens our connection. Sensual touch is a profound expression of love and affection.